Sunday, September 17, 2006

A Pair Of Penguins

Bruhs Mero and Gene Harwood had been together for sixty-four years before Bruhs passed away in 1995.

I met Bruhs in 1929. I remember that I was a little intimidated because he had a regular girlfriend, and it was just assumed that ultimately they were going to get married. But he and I spent a lot of time together, and eventually, whatever chemistry was at work, Bruhs realized that I meant more to him than the girl did.
I'm sure it was basically a physical attraction at the beginning, but there was a strange feeling of recognition that passed between us. A sense that we were really not strangers. And we both had the same ideal, which was that we didn't want to ever leave each other.

We built a life together which supported who we were and what we cared about. I think the most fulfilling times were the dance and music work we did together. Bruhs and I created a little theater where we performed together.
I think that creating together strengthened our relationship. Ours might have gone the way of so many others without that creative cement to tie it together.

I feel that we are on this planet for a purpose, and that we must view our experience here as part of a gigantic classroom where we must learn our lessons in order to progress. Bruhs and I always felt that our life paths came together not by accident, but for a purpose, and that we will be reunited at a future time in another setting.
We are not alone.

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32 Comments:

Blogger Neith said...

This one really gets to me . . . teary eyes . . 'sniff'

jm - you never cease to amaze me!

17/9/06 4:46 PM  
Anonymous Joe said...

That's sweet. :o) I know I've seen that story before, along with the picture. It's not every day you run across the name Bruhs.

17/9/06 5:55 PM  
Blogger Kadimiros said...

A fortunate couple. :-)

"We are not alone."

Yes....Never alone....

17/9/06 6:32 PM  
Blogger Pat Paquette said...

Glad you wrote a new post, JM. The discussion of girlie girls was starting to degenerate into serious astrology :-)

This story would have made a more memorable movie than oh, hell, I even forget the name of it already . . . you know, the one that was supposed be to set in the Tetons but was filmed in Canada.

17/9/06 6:49 PM  
Anonymous tseka said...

We are not alone.

so true....

17/9/06 6:59 PM  
Anonymous casey said...

ahhhh. so sweet.

however, for me, it is and almost always has been, always alone.

17/9/06 7:01 PM  
Anonymous tseka said...

i was thinking of the power of love today.

A friend stopped to visit with his two sons this morning. He has gained custody of them just in last year. Both boys are autistic. I've known the father for many years, since he himself was pretty young. He spent many years in therapy, and on meds dealing with his own bi-polar disorder.

Somehow in doing what it takes to become this outstandingly patient and really amazing single father his own disease disappeared. No meds, no therapy, just the everyday focus. The power of love never fails to astonish me.

All three are jewels in my heart. One of the boys left me a feather tucked where i would find it later. Small magic, my beloved used to call this. Small magic. may be the biggest kind of all.

17/9/06 7:14 PM  
Anonymous juno jones said...

Beautiful post, my dear....*sniff*

17/9/06 7:22 PM  
Blogger Neith said...

Glad you wrote a new post, JM. The discussion of girlie girls was starting to degenerate into serious astrology :-)

LOL!!! oh so true!! And it was "Brokeback Mountain"... OK movie, great scenery.

And, Casey, you may be alone in the physical world . . . BUT NOT HERE!!! :-) A question . . . do you see yourself as a solitary person? I know i lean in that direction as do tseka & jm.

yes, tseka, the small magics are the best . . . :-)

17/9/06 7:24 PM  
Blogger jm said...

You guys are soft touches.
I didn't have enough kleenex, but I picked some up on the way home. Help yourselves.

The discussion of girlie girls was starting to degenerate into serious astrology :-)

LOL. We gotta do some of that, Pat. Interesting things coming up.

17/9/06 7:26 PM  
Blogger jm said...

The alone question is a good one. It's perception. We are alone but all our lives we connect, disconnect, and reconnect, so that makes up for it.

You have a Saturn in Libra, casey. All about difficulty in relationships but the skill to have great ones when the lessons are learned. You're in good company here with all our massive combined Libra.

17/9/06 7:30 PM  
Anonymous tseka said...

Ja, Saturn is exalted in Libra so i figure the karma for these lessons once learned is worth the trial.

I share Saturn in Libra with you Casey, may we grow old and wise...

17/9/06 7:37 PM  
Blogger jm said...

Of course.

Here's a good one for you Saturns:

My brother has Sun/Neptune/Moon/Mercury in Libra. His wife has Saturn in the 7th like your Saturn in Libra. After 20+ years of marriage they are divorcing. I never would have expected this, but they are agreeing on everything, no quarrels at all, and have come together in a new kind of relationship with freedon and respect. I'm impressed.

17/9/06 7:44 PM  
Blogger jm said...

They joked about writing a book on amicable divorce. Libra is a lot about ending relationships too, one of the hardest parts to do well.

17/9/06 7:46 PM  
Blogger jm said...

Also the art of disagreement. This really comes under Libra.

While we're there, the USA has a Saturn in Libra, and we are about to deal with it. This is probably why we lost it in inappropriate warfare. This will have to be corrected.

Natally, Saturn in Libra anticipates rejection, often not conscious, so the subconscious can often sabotage relationships. It's hard to get a hold of it, and many times the person blames the other too much. Experience will change this, teach the lessons, but Saturn can make us feel unworthy in the place it falls in our charts. We have the innate skill there, we just have trial and error to get through, the point being to find excellent egalitarian relationships. Better than most you see around you.

Same with our hapless country.

17/9/06 7:54 PM  
Blogger jm said...

Saturn in Libra is also a quest for manners, beauty, refinement and grace. It can be hard to witness the uncivilized behavior around and about and not be able to make it better. I have that with my Libra planets. The common courtesy thing.

17/9/06 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Joe said...

Tseka, that part about your friend's bipolar disorder disappearing does not surprise me in the least, because the very same thing happened to my partner. Just being half of a significant primary relationship was all it took to eliminate any need for medication.

I take it as proof that the doctors don't know everything and never will.

17/9/06 8:27 PM  
Anonymous tseka said...

Joe!!!
More proof of the power of love!

17/9/06 8:58 PM  
Blogger Neith said...

I take it as proof that the doctors don't know everything and never will.

I wish more of them were willing to admit it! The first step in learning is admitting error . . . that makes it possible for a door to open to allow knowledge to enter, yes?!

Joe, your sun forms a trine w/Marks's Mars in Pisces. Just a thought, but perhaps you being you act as a ground for that energy that otherwise is doesn't really have one. His Mars is opposed by Jupiter & quincunx (150 degree aspect) to his Venus. I know all that doesn't mean much to you but perhaps some of the more knowledge astrologers will other an opinion...or two or three!

17/9/06 9:40 PM  
Blogger Pat Paquette said...

Well, my whole take on depression is that it's often about a lack of love. While doctors don't know what causes it (I wrote quite a bit about this in comments on my last posting on my blog), we do know that failed connections in the brain show up as symptoms we call "depression." The body/mind can't connect with itself. This is such a metaphor for our times and a microcosm of the larger problem.

While I believe that ultimately we have to learn to love ourselves -- cliche, but exceptionally hard to do -- I don't think this precludes being "cured" by power of true love. What's important is that the disconnect cycle be interrupted somewhere, somehow. Of course, most of us aren't at our most attractive when we're depressed, and if we're severely depressed, we may be shunned, which makes the problem even worse.

A major part of self-love includes honoring our feelings and expressing ourselves from the heart. When we can't do this -- especially if someone with power over us is expressly forbidding us to do so -- we get depressed.

Neith, thanks for reminding me of the film title. I guess the reason I didn't much care for that film is that I didn't feel a lot of love in it. The "love" scenes were in fact mostly devoid of love. It was more about neediness. Then, maybe that was the point and I just didn't get it.

Now that I think about it, it was kind of depressing.

17/9/06 10:05 PM  
Blogger Pat Paquette said...

On the subject of Libra and relationships -- JM, there's a theory out there somewhere -- I forget where, but makes total sense to me -- that "easy" relationships have easy breakups. It's the hard ones that we can't let go of without putting up a fight. Relationships are easy when the couple has a lot of trines and sextiles in their synastry chart or, ironically, when they don't have much going on at all. The hard ones either have major squares and oppositions, or they have so many points of contact that they have a tight bond that's harder to break. I suppose it's a variation on "the bigger they are, the harder they fall."

A manual written by a couple of polite, civilized Libras wouldn't have helped me one iota getting out of a relationship with a quadrupal Scorpio, rising Leo! Took me five years to get over that one.

17/9/06 10:12 PM  
Blogger Neith said...

Now that I think about it, it was kind of depressing.

Yes, it was! And you're right about the neediness & I'd like to add obsession. We watched a film w/Redford & Morgan Freeman called "An Unfinished Life" set in the same general part of the country, and it was a nice, quietly hopeful film. I just prefer that these days, with Saturn squaring all my Scorpio stuff, I need counterbalance!

17/9/06 10:18 PM  
Blogger jm said...

Good points Pat. Never broke it down like that.

quadrupal Scorpio, rising Leo! Took me five years to get over that one.

Jesus. Glad you did. Thanks for your honest assessment of that film which so many didn't give.

Jeeeze, neith. Quietly hopeful is something we all need, Scorpio or no.

Thanks for the image.

17/9/06 10:40 PM  
Blogger Neith said...

hey all - Pat's new post is up!!! And very, very good as usual!

17/9/06 10:42 PM  
Blogger jm said...

Pat's post is great! Astro chicken soup and more!

The more I think about it. My friend who is going through a traumatic breakup has Mars at 29 Scorp and two other Scorpio planets. I'm sure they square his Pluto in Leo plus I think he has more in Leo.

17/9/06 11:10 PM  
Blogger jm said...

The lack of love and depression is interesting in this respect.

Love is connected with confidence in the self and I think this is elevating,expanding, the opposite of depressing. The USA has a North Node in Leo which is self love and hard to get to. I think this could be behind the depression here as a whole. With Saturn there now, I feel it has surfaced.

One person I know has Moon in Leo conjunct the SN, and she has battled depression forever. But now, whoa Nellie! It's really bearing down but in a different more revelatory way. Can't be ignored or even drugged right now.

17/9/06 11:17 PM  
Anonymous Joe said...

"The USA has a North Node in Leo which is self love and hard to get to. I think this could be behind the depression here as a whole."

So if the country has such and such a natal chart, does it influence the individual natal charts of the citizens that much? is every citizen of a given country doomed by his or her country's natal chart and its vagaries?

18/9/06 3:57 AM  
Anonymous Joe said...

Neith wrote: perhaps you being you act as a ground for that energy that otherwise is doesn't really have one.

Interesting you'd say so because he's often said as much. Also, I think there's a grounding effect for him and a leavening effect for me. In another pairing, I would be concerned about codependency, but my feeling is that my innate independence keeps that in firm check.

18/9/06 5:13 AM  
Anonymous casey said...

I would think that the country's chart would color the country's unconscious so that we would all tend to have a common underlying viewpoint. How much in the past has been written about America's buoyant optimism? It's in the collective unconscious. (and wouldn't that be the Jupiter in Sag?)

I had to go away and think about your (all of you) insightful comments. I am always alone and seemingly have always been this way except for a Saturn cycle in my late teens/early 20s. When I was little (and other girls were dreaming of their husbands-to-be), I could never SEE myself with anyone. And I still can't. I've been married twice for very brief periods and they were both stormy. Marriage equals storms for me.

And I'm alone by choice. Especially this past year. I don't return phone calls as much as I should. I NEVER make them unless I really need to. I don't go out much anymore, not even to the movies or concerts. I don't drink hardly at all (which is a wonderment to me since I couldn't even conceive of not having a beer after work while in my 20s/30s/40s). I don't call my son regularly. He calls me. I guess people have become not-that-important to me. I wonder if this what Astrodienst means when they say I'm a "hard and cold selfish person."

okay. i'm now having an enormous load of self-loathing. sigh.

this is probably why i've done nothing but sim all weekend.

18/9/06 6:46 AM  
Blogger jm said...

BTW, I'm sort of addicted to earplugs and use them often!

I have three sets. They've saved my sanity.

18/9/06 2:09 PM  
Blogger jm said...

is every citizen of a given country doomed by his or her country's natal chart and its vagaries?

Great great question joe.

I am of the opinion that no one, or country, is 'doomed' by a chart.

The chart doesn't do anything. It's a map of the self projected to be read, just like the captain of a ship reads the stars.
We are the directors. The chart helps us do this by giving us the blueprint.

What causes the events in our lives is a grand combination. The more we understand our personalities, the more we can escape the perceived 'doom'. That's why predictive fatalistic astrology is 'doomed', especially after they all predicted the last election wrong. I think it was the death knell for western predictive astrology. Now is a good time to be getting into it.

I think we are influenced by the country's chart quite a bit, although in varying degrees with everyone.

Italy, for example is a Leo country, partying and fun loving. Even under Mussolini and it is interesting to look into the Italians' perspective on Fascism. Entirely different from here. So each Italian with Leo would probably pick up on the atmosphere in the country.
Same here. We are not as expressive as Italians for example. Our celebrities manifest the inhibition. Some people will not be affected at all, some will, but it is probably most visible in the people we put into the limelight.

18/9/06 2:55 PM  
Anonymous Joe said...

When you put it in terms of atmosphere, then I understand. :o)

18/9/06 3:06 PM  

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